Written on May 23, 2016: 19 weeks and 5 days
Welp, at 17 weeks and 1 day I finally went to the doctor. It took me forever to find a doctor that I wanted to go to and I still wasn't crazy about this one. Every doctor I read about just seemed so intervention happy. I started looking into a midwife, but that was going to require a little extra work through insurance, and with it already being relatively far into my pregnancy, I decided to just go with what I had found. This doctor works with a midwife and she handles the deliveries that are on a few days of the week and every other weekend. I read all about her and she sounded great which is why I ultimately went with it. I also figured that an OB who highers a midwife, because some of his patients requested it, would probably be good at listening to his patients and maybe even think along the same lines as the midwife.
I scheduled my first appointment to be with this midwife, but since she was running behind, another midwife not mentioned on their site saw me. Great, I was fine with this. I was not a fan though. Initially she gave me SUCH a hard time for not coming in sooner. Why? What were you even going to do? I've been pregnant twice before and didn't have any questions for you. I would have opted out of the genetic testing that I missed the window for. She was upset about not getting to do an ultrasound to date the pregnancy but I also would have opted out of this because we have a high deductible insurance plan. I wasn't unsure on my date and since my other two were born either on the due date or only an hour late, apparently that's pretty accurate for me. She didn't seem to believe me at all and was asking if I could feel any movement yet to try and get an idea if I was as far along as I said I was. I realize I didn't look very pregnant, but why would I go to all the trouble of driving 30 minutes and dragging along my kids to an OB appointment if I wasn't positive that I was pregnant? And why does she assume women are incapable of knowing and understanding how pregnant they are-especially one who has already had 2 kids. I just couldn't figure out why she was so upset. Especially because in the handbook she gave me written by the OB, it said he likes to have the first visit be at about 12 weeks. So I essentially missed one visit. Can we all just chill? Everything is going to be fine.
Another milestone has been feeling so much movement. With Adaline, I could tell I was feeling her move by about 20 weeks, with Matthew I remember a distinct, powerful kick at 18 weeks, and with this baby I was feeling kicks at least as early as 16 weeks and I really think I could feel movement before that but it's a little harder to say for sure. This is definitely my favorite part of being pregnant and it's so fun that it's already started.
The other notable thing is that we finally told our families! At the beginning, I just wanted to keep this baby to ourselves for a little bit. It makes the time go faster and it's kind of nice to just enjoy it on our own for a bit. Then we told Adaline and she immediately told our neighbor so I thought she was just going to tell everyone and I didn't really think about it for a little while. Next we went to UT and at first I just knew she would tell everyone, but she seemed too busy to remember. I thought about telling everyone who was there at her birthday party, but Andrew's mom and my parents weren't there and so I didn't want everyone else knowing before they did. Then we stayed in UT a little longer for Andrew's grandma's funeral and that really didn't feel like the right time to tell people. By this time I was around 15 weeks pregnant and I know some people were getting suspicious because I was starting to show depending on the day. When we got back home, I was so busy catching up on things, giving a talk, teaching a lesson, getting the house in order, that I didn't even think about it for a couple weeks. Finally, after having gone to the doctor for the first time, hearing the heartbeat, and having things slow down a little bit, I realized how weird it was that I was 18 weeks pregnant and none of our family members knew it. So we started brainstorming ways to tell them. Since it was kind of late, we wanted something quick and efficient so we settled on emailing a picture of us playing tug of war with girls on one side and boys on the other (since this baby will make us either be a family of more boys or of more girls). Most people were surprised, some didn't get it, and at least one had her suspicion confirmed. Some days I still wish it was just our secret, but it's starting to get obvious and it's also fun to have more people to celebrate with. Now I'm starting to feel weird for not telling any of our friends. Once it gets passed a certain point, I feel like it's sort of weird to casually mention it in a conversation. Also, since it's our third baby I feel some weird need to justify the fact that we're having more than 2 kids. People make a lot of comments when they don't know that someone they're talking to falls into the category their talking about and it makes me less willing to share. Did that make sense?
I love both of our kids and I'm so excited for all the ways that this baby is going to help them learn and develop. I'm also so excited to have another baby to love and teach! My kids are awesome and having another one is going to make our family even more fun!
I think I am mostly feeling good these days. I haven't started wearing maternity clothes yet because that's kind of a dead giveaway that you're pregnant, but I didn't wear many maternity clothes at this point with the other kids either. As long as I stay hydrated and exercise at least every other day, then I feel pretty good. I am already waking up to pee all night and I've had to start doing 'no water after 8pm' which mostly helps.
I've already read the hypnobirthing book all the way through again and I've been listening to the relaxation track and practicing with Andrew. I love hypnobirthing and seriously think everyone needs to try it. It is not about trying to have an unmedicated birth. That's not the point at all! It's just so educational about what goes on in your body during labor and birth and how you can help/stay out of the way so that your body can do it as effectively as possible. I've gotten so passionate about it that I'm seriously considering becoming an instructor at some point down the road. I would just love that!
Adaline is so excited about the new baby and talks about it all the time. She and Matthew both love to kiss and hug my belly-they are adorable little goofballs.
Welp, at 17 weeks and 1 day I finally went to the doctor. It took me forever to find a doctor that I wanted to go to and I still wasn't crazy about this one. Every doctor I read about just seemed so intervention happy. I started looking into a midwife, but that was going to require a little extra work through insurance, and with it already being relatively far into my pregnancy, I decided to just go with what I had found. This doctor works with a midwife and she handles the deliveries that are on a few days of the week and every other weekend. I read all about her and she sounded great which is why I ultimately went with it. I also figured that an OB who highers a midwife, because some of his patients requested it, would probably be good at listening to his patients and maybe even think along the same lines as the midwife.
I scheduled my first appointment to be with this midwife, but since she was running behind, another midwife not mentioned on their site saw me. Great, I was fine with this. I was not a fan though. Initially she gave me SUCH a hard time for not coming in sooner. Why? What were you even going to do? I've been pregnant twice before and didn't have any questions for you. I would have opted out of the genetic testing that I missed the window for. She was upset about not getting to do an ultrasound to date the pregnancy but I also would have opted out of this because we have a high deductible insurance plan. I wasn't unsure on my date and since my other two were born either on the due date or only an hour late, apparently that's pretty accurate for me. She didn't seem to believe me at all and was asking if I could feel any movement yet to try and get an idea if I was as far along as I said I was. I realize I didn't look very pregnant, but why would I go to all the trouble of driving 30 minutes and dragging along my kids to an OB appointment if I wasn't positive that I was pregnant? And why does she assume women are incapable of knowing and understanding how pregnant they are-especially one who has already had 2 kids. I just couldn't figure out why she was so upset. Especially because in the handbook she gave me written by the OB, it said he likes to have the first visit be at about 12 weeks. So I essentially missed one visit. Can we all just chill? Everything is going to be fine.
Another milestone has been feeling so much movement. With Adaline, I could tell I was feeling her move by about 20 weeks, with Matthew I remember a distinct, powerful kick at 18 weeks, and with this baby I was feeling kicks at least as early as 16 weeks and I really think I could feel movement before that but it's a little harder to say for sure. This is definitely my favorite part of being pregnant and it's so fun that it's already started.
The other notable thing is that we finally told our families! At the beginning, I just wanted to keep this baby to ourselves for a little bit. It makes the time go faster and it's kind of nice to just enjoy it on our own for a bit. Then we told Adaline and she immediately told our neighbor so I thought she was just going to tell everyone and I didn't really think about it for a little while. Next we went to UT and at first I just knew she would tell everyone, but she seemed too busy to remember. I thought about telling everyone who was there at her birthday party, but Andrew's mom and my parents weren't there and so I didn't want everyone else knowing before they did. Then we stayed in UT a little longer for Andrew's grandma's funeral and that really didn't feel like the right time to tell people. By this time I was around 15 weeks pregnant and I know some people were getting suspicious because I was starting to show depending on the day. When we got back home, I was so busy catching up on things, giving a talk, teaching a lesson, getting the house in order, that I didn't even think about it for a couple weeks. Finally, after having gone to the doctor for the first time, hearing the heartbeat, and having things slow down a little bit, I realized how weird it was that I was 18 weeks pregnant and none of our family members knew it. So we started brainstorming ways to tell them. Since it was kind of late, we wanted something quick and efficient so we settled on emailing a picture of us playing tug of war with girls on one side and boys on the other (since this baby will make us either be a family of more boys or of more girls). Most people were surprised, some didn't get it, and at least one had her suspicion confirmed. Some days I still wish it was just our secret, but it's starting to get obvious and it's also fun to have more people to celebrate with. Now I'm starting to feel weird for not telling any of our friends. Once it gets passed a certain point, I feel like it's sort of weird to casually mention it in a conversation. Also, since it's our third baby I feel some weird need to justify the fact that we're having more than 2 kids. People make a lot of comments when they don't know that someone they're talking to falls into the category their talking about and it makes me less willing to share. Did that make sense?
I love both of our kids and I'm so excited for all the ways that this baby is going to help them learn and develop. I'm also so excited to have another baby to love and teach! My kids are awesome and having another one is going to make our family even more fun!
I think I am mostly feeling good these days. I haven't started wearing maternity clothes yet because that's kind of a dead giveaway that you're pregnant, but I didn't wear many maternity clothes at this point with the other kids either. As long as I stay hydrated and exercise at least every other day, then I feel pretty good. I am already waking up to pee all night and I've had to start doing 'no water after 8pm' which mostly helps.
I've already read the hypnobirthing book all the way through again and I've been listening to the relaxation track and practicing with Andrew. I love hypnobirthing and seriously think everyone needs to try it. It is not about trying to have an unmedicated birth. That's not the point at all! It's just so educational about what goes on in your body during labor and birth and how you can help/stay out of the way so that your body can do it as effectively as possible. I've gotten so passionate about it that I'm seriously considering becoming an instructor at some point down the road. I would just love that!
Adaline is so excited about the new baby and talks about it all the time. She and Matthew both love to kiss and hug my belly-they are adorable little goofballs.
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